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    Cool reasons to be childfree for you and me

    it just needs to be said again:
    money
    sleep
    flexibility to be lazy, travel, stay up late, sleep in
    no sticky fingers in your hair, on your clothes, or on your walls
    no sassy bratty tweens and teens


    those are some of my reasons. as well as the fact that i dont have the patience nor the desire for parenting. gimmie your reasons again. ive forgotten in the move.

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    Never had a burning desire to be a mom. Is that sufficient? Not sure about for you, but it works for me.

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    i always felt fraudulent talking about "when i have kids" with my gotta-be mom friends back in the day. i shouldve known when i chose gi joes over cabbage patch kids. i figured eventually my rumoured biological clock would ramp up or something. ive given up on that. my boys grandmother should too.

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    I am really fortunate to have very loving and open-minded parents who didn't bug me about my choice.

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    Oh, and my mother wants more grandchildren (she already has four). She's not incessant about it, but she does ask when my boyfriend and I are going to start making babies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Catie View Post
    Oh, and my mother wants more grandchildren (she already has four). She's not incessant about it, but she does ask when my boyfriend and I are going to start making babies.
    Ahahahhaha! My mother NEVER asks me that! I'm pretty sure she doesn't want me to have kids. Of course, I don't particularly want to have them either. Besides, Erik has 2 lovely daughters already. I'm sure even step-parenting them is going to be a big change for me/us, and I don't think adding more kids on top of that is in our best interests. Now, if I did get pregnant by some chance, I would probably have the baby. I think Erik is a great father, and I wouldn't want anyone else in my life to be my partner in parenting should I choose to have kids. But do I have the innate desire to pop one out? No, no I don't. I never have. I don't know if that will change or not.

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    two beavers are better than one! Robin Sparkles's Avatar
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    I simply have no desire - nothing about having children appeals to me. I know so many parents that love their new "identity" as a parent and that's great for them, but a life of dirty diapers and sleepless nights is not something I want to partake in. I love my freedom, bottom, line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Catie View Post
    I simply have no desire - nothing about having children appeals to me. I know so many parents that love their new "identity" as a parent and that's great for them, but a life of dirty diapers and sleepless nights is not something I want to partake in. I love my freedom, bottom, line.
    Yep, it's this for me too. I've never had even the slightest desire. And if that ever changes for some crazy reason, I'm sure I can logic my way out of it.

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    i dont have the patience nor the desire
    Never had a burning desire
    I simply have no desire
    I've never had even the slightest desire
    Seems to be a common thread here: we don't DESIRE having children. Damn good reason not to.

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    I like my nieces and nephews well enough, it's fun to watch them grow up and they're good kids. But I still have no desire to have one of my own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Canodiva1 View Post
    I like my nieces and nephews well enough, it's fun to watch them grow up and they're good kids. But I still have no desire to have one of my own.
    its funny. i get the "but youre so good with kids" thing. i mean, im "good" i guess because i dont have to take them home. its like a new toy. seriously. if i play with kids too long, i get bored. plus the negatives dont make it "all worth it" to me. im missing out on some stuff, true. but im also missing out on some stuff by not being a man, by not being a doctor, by not living in south africa, but not eating meat, etc. its not something i miss.

    i must say, i get less family pressure about kids since my sis in law had one and less pressure from co-workers now that i stopped working in small town USA.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fux n sux View Post
    its funny. i get the "but youre so good with kids" thing..
    I get that all the time, too. Mostly from my mom, who thinks that by reminding me of the fact that children seem to like me, she'll encourage me to get knocked up.

    Lots of people will say that they think my boyfriend would be a really great daddy, too, which I find kind of hilarious. I'm sure he WOULD be a good dad. I'd probably be a good mom. That means that you should do it? Uh, OK. What incentive.

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    Never had the desire, and also I think there are too many people in the world as it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nancy View Post
    Never had the desire, and also I think there are too many people in the world as it is.
    This. IF I were to have children, and that's probably not going to happen, I'd just adopt. So many children need homes. But pregnancy and childbirth? No thanks.
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    I agree with all the reasons above but one other is I think pregnant bellies are ugly and gross and I don't find pregnancy or giving birth to a living thing beautiful or a miracle like a lot of people.

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