Quote Originally Posted by CC
After some time, I told her that I don't feel understood by her - an old issue between us.
Then she accused me of not telling her before, demanding examples.
Under tears, I did give her some current ones - she said, she never said these things, I misunderstood, misinterpreted etc. that it wasn't true.
That she always has best intentions and I take everything she says too literally etc.
That sounds like classic gaslighting behavior on your mother's part. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you made a good decision to leave the situation when you did. I hope you can find some comfort in days to come in knowing that you did what you could to take care of yourself by leaving and refusing to listen to any more of that treatment from your mother.