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    Quote Originally Posted by CC
    After some time, I told her that I don't feel understood by her - an old issue between us.
    Then she accused me of not telling her before, demanding examples.
    Under tears, I did give her some current ones - she said, she never said these things, I misunderstood, misinterpreted etc. that it wasn't true.
    That she always has best intentions and I take everything she says too literally etc.
    That sounds like classic gaslighting behavior on your mother's part. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you made a good decision to leave the situation when you did. I hope you can find some comfort in days to come in knowing that you did what you could to take care of yourself by leaving and refusing to listen to any more of that treatment from your mother.

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    Ughhhhhh clothes shopping after gaining a ton of weight over the course of a couple incredibly stressful work years. Between the weight gain, the clothes shopping experience, and the imminent return to work following a holiday break (back on an airplane Tuesday morning), I'm like, kill me please.

    Just venting here. I guess I'm just feeling overwhelmed by my problems, or more accurately by my apparent inability to solve them. I feel so frustrated with, ashamed by, and disappointed in myself. Please please please let 2018 be a much better year than 2017.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grapefruit_is_winning View Post
    Just venting here. I guess I'm just feeling overwhelmed by my problems, or more accurately by my apparent inability to solve them. I feel so frustrated with, ashamed by, and disappointed in myself. Please please please let 2018 be a much better year than 2017.
    I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through a rough patch. All I can say is that change takes time. I get that it may not be what you want to hear right now, but it's true: Patience is the only way to go about these things. It's a major step forward that you've identified the things in your life that are making you unhappy and / or uncomfortable. You have to allow yourself a little space to go about making the changes that you need to make; nothing happens overnight, but now that you know what you want you have all the time in the world to plan your course of action.

    (I'm saying all of this to myself as much as I'm saying it to you. It's just the only piece of advice that is valid and true.)

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