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    Quote Originally Posted by Puddles View Post
    And frankly, there's something very gross about a straight guy caring more about his "right" to use a homophobic slur rather than the gay people it offends.
    Well, I can't disagree with that.

    I have this one group of friends and acquaintances that consists mostly of dirtbag punk moped riders. Most of them are straight, some bi or gay, but within their circle they've sort of adopted "fag" as an insult meaning "whiny little bitch"-- sexual orientation plays no part in it. I kind of like that they've destroyed the power of that word by repurposing it. Whether or not the straights among them should be participating in that is debatable, but the whole vibe is refreshingly post-sexual. I guess that's what I meant by "context matters" as it's a different vibe from a bunch of homophobic frat boys throwing that word around.

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    I don't know where else to share this:

    Yesterday I was walking into a hardware store and noticed a guy walking towards the same door, equidistant from me. I have social anxiety about a lot of situations, and one of them is wtf to do when I and another person approach a door at the same time. Do I wait and let them open it? Do I offer to open it? Do I slow down? Do I speed up? So all this is going through my head. So OF COURSE we get to the door at the exact same time and I start feeling all weird and don't know what to do, and then I look at him and he's wearing full makeup which caught me even further off guard (I live in a very small southern town, so men in makeup is incredibly rare). He says, "Girl, you look SO cute today!" and instead of thanking him I just mumbled something and went through the door as fast as I could.

    I FELT HORRIBLE FOR THE REST OF THE DAY. I felt horrible for even mentally noting that he/she had on makeup, I felt horrible that my awkwardness may have been interpreted as homophobia (and thus made him/her have to experience that discomfort), I feel horrible that he/she may have felt judged by me. Really it all came down to my social anxiety, but now i'm questioning why I got even more nervous when I realized he/she was wearing makeup! I mean, if that had happened to me in NYC I would've been like, "THANKS! You totally just made my day!" but because it happened here I was like OH GOD WHAT DO I DO.

    I don't know what to think about myself right now.

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    First, (s)he was wearing full make up, but does that mean (s)he is gay; not necessarily, so you're not a homophobe. Latent transphobia? I actually don't really think that -phobias like that can really be latent. Your reaction was probably a relatively normal one, a simple combination of your anxiety (approaching the door together) AND being surprised by somebody who is "socially salient" (wearing full make-up as well as saying you look cute), not necessarily in a bad way. Don't beat yourself up about it.
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    Hey, kids!

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    Kill them all.

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    I'm not sure why people always expect a different result from religious leaders. They cling to their old time beliefs despite how out of step and tone deaf they are. Mat Staver and Tony Perkins especially should die in an actual fire. Nothing would make me happier.

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    Made me LOLYOLOs. Marriage has longer been a business of the people than a church business if there was no feudal lord involved. It wasn't until halfway through medieval times or so that the church wanted to be more involved. (Which means marriage has existed in Christianity longer without church involvement than with).

    Why exactly is everyone in the States talking about this particular bunch of randoms?
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